What to do when dating a commitment phobe
There are many reasons why people remain single, including: As with other phobias, commitment phobia is an irrational fear that may be unconscious.If your various relationships didn’t work out each for a different reason, you may not have commitment phobia.Studies show that people who suffer from commitment phobia are deeply influenced by their childhood experiences that have seared their subconscious minds and given birth to such unrealistic fears. However, there are some men who will only take up that responsibility for a woman who they feel deserves that respect. You think you’re heading somewhere, but you aren’t.These include the death of a parent, a messy divorce, or parental abuse. For a man, a relationship is sort of like a responsibility. He has a responsibility to call you when he’ll be home late. You get sucked into a relationship that does not have a future.If you’ve dated a commitment phobic man you might be very familiar with his Pursue/Panic Syndrome: He wants you. (I’ll illuminate my reactions in bold) “Shannon — I have so much to say … Here’s a little taste of a letter one of my men sent.
The relationship is over, so he is no longer frightened. When that happens, usually the scenario is played out all over again.
Rinse and repeat If you’re anything like I was, you may’ve had the confounding experience of finally getting the strength to stay away from your commitment-phobic guy for good … only to have him come back on hands and knees, swearing that he really really loves you and he’s really really changed this time!
I’m thankful for knowing such a dynamically talented, spiritual, intelligent and beautiful woman.” (My ego ate that up like a delicious Chow Mein!
If a man doesn’t want to be committed to you, why try to force him? Love is not always as strong a force as gravity to make sure that they have no choice but to plant their feet firmly on the ground next to you.
Oh, and note the difference between him wanting to be with you, and him wanting to commit to you. Let’s look at the potential for a couple moving from a steady relationship to marriage.